Escort Etiquette: What to Know Before Your First Booking

At heart, escort etiquette is about respect. Turn up on time and freshly washed, pay her at the beginning without making a thing of it, and accept that her boundaries are hers to set. Never haggle over the rate, and do not feel obliged to tip. On a first booking with an escort, these simple habits make you a client she is pleased to see and make the time much more enjoyable for both of you.

Your first time with an escort

Feeling nervous is natural, and she will have met many first-timers already. Usually a booking starts with a short chat, maybe a drink, and getting the payment out of the way. She will help you relax. There is no need for a plan or a script: just be polite and be yourself. You can happily tell her it is your first time. Lots of clients do, and it lets her set a comfortable pace.

For a first booking, read our walkthrough on booking an escort step by step before you ring. It explains choosing a lady, getting in touch and confirmation. If the abbreviations on profiles leave you puzzled, our A to Z of escort terms sets them out in plain English.

Etiquette when booking

• Keep your message short and clear: which lady, where, when and for how long.
• Do not ask for explicit details by text or on the phone. What takes place during your time is private between consenting adults.
• Do not book a few ladies as backups and then cancel the others. If you must cancel, let us know early; with fair notice there is no charge.
• Get the details right: the correct hotel, the correct room number and a time you can actually make.

Why good hygiene counts

Take a shower just before she arrives, or before you set off for an incall. Clean your teeth, cut your nails and wear fresh clothes. It is simple good manners, she will notice it, and it sets the mood for the rest of the booking. At an incall, she will gladly let you freshen up when you get there; simply ask.

Being on time

For an incall, arrive at the agreed time rather than early, as she may still be preparing. For an outcall, be ready for her arrival and keep your phone close. Your time starts at the agreed hour, so if you start late you lose time together rather than finishing later. If you want to extend, ask in good time, as she might have another booking after yours.

Phones and other distractions

Switch your phone to silent and turn it face down. Answering calls or reading emails during your booking uses up your own time and can seem rude. If something urgent may come in, say so at the outset and she will understand.

Paying discreetly, at the start

Settle the payment at the beginning, before anything else happens. Have the right amount ready, normally in cash, and pass it over simply, or put it in an envelope somewhere she can see. Do not leave her to bring it up. After that, there is no reason to mention money again. Our rates cover time and companionship, and our page on London escort prices shows what is usual.

Respecting her limits

A profile shows what a lady might be open to. It is not a list of promises. Two consenting adults agree everything between them, and she may say no to anything at any point, even something on her profile. If she declines, take it with good grace. Do not pressure her, bargain or push. Our ladies pick their own bookings, and what matters most is that she feels comfortable and safe.

Drink in moderation, and keep anything illegal well away. Clear heads make better company for both of you.

Visiting her at an incall

Her apartment is someone’s private home. Come in quietly, do not linger on the stairs or in the hallway, and speak softly if neighbours are around. Use the bathroom she points you to, leave it tidy and stay out of other rooms. When your time ends, go promptly, as another guest may be on the way.

Welcoming her for an outcall

When she is visiting you, make the room inviting. Tidy up, put out a fresh towel and offer her some water when she gets there. Make yourself easy to find: the right room number, simple directions and a phone that is switched on. For hotel visits, our page on booking an escort to your hotel explains reception and key cards.

Conversation and good manners

Treat her as you would anybody you are meeting for the first time. Ask about her day, listen to the answer and keep the chat light. Steer clear of nosy questions about her personal life or why she does this work; she will tell you what she chooses to. Compliments go down well; crude comments do not.

Don’t haggle, and there’s no need to tip

Every escort sets her own rates, which appear on her profile. Requesting a discount, whether by message or on the doorstep, is bad manners and makes things awkward for everyone. If the price is beyond your budget, book a shorter time, think about choosing incall over outcall, or ask us to recommend another lady.

Tips are not expected. The rate is simply the rate. If you want to show you are grateful, warm words, good manners and a repeat booking mean much more.

Privacy runs in both directions

Take no photos, do not push for her real name or private number, and do not try to see her away from the agency. She keeps your secrets, so keep hers. For our part, we keep nothing but the number you contacted us on; our page on how we protect your privacy covers the rest.

When the booking ends

Say thank you, let her go on time (or head off on time yourself after an incall), and that is all. If you liked her company, mention it next time you book. You can also read other clients’ comments on our client reviews page.

It matters, both legally and ethically, that the lady you book is working through her own choice, and our page asking whether escorting is legal in the UK explains why. Once you are ready, look through our escorts in London, see which ladies are free today, or get in touch with us to book.