A List of Kinks: The Common Ones and What They Involve
A kink is any taste you enjoy outside conventional sex. Most are very ordinary, such as restraint, role play or a favourite item of clothing. Below is a straightforward list of the most common ones and what each really involves.
This list of kinks starts with a simple definition: a kink is any preference that goes beyond plain vanilla sex. There is nothing unusual about having one. Surveys on the topic repeatedly find that most adults have one or more, and the familiar ones are much milder than their reputations suggest.
Kink or fetish: what’s the difference?
A kink is something you like. A fetish is a need: arousal relies on a particular object, material or part of the body. Feet show both neatly: liking them is a kink, while needing them makes it a fetish. Our guide to the meaning of fetish explores that difference further.
A list of common kinks
- Bondage. Being tied up, or doing the tying. Cuffs, a tie, some rope. Often the way into everything else.
- Dominance and submission. One partner takes charge and the other goes along. No kit required. See domination and submission.
- Spanking and impact. Hands to begin with, implements later on. The person receiving decides how hard.
- Role play. Two characters and a setup. Strangers meeting at a hotel bar is the favourite request. Read our guide to role play ideas.
- Foot worship. Attention lavished on feet, whether affectionate or submissive. Among the most common of all, and the subject of our foot worship guide.
- Lingerie, latex and leather. About a material more than an act. Stockings, PVC, a certain outfit she puts on.
- Exhibitionism and voyeurism. Being watched, or doing the watching. With an escort it tends to mean a mirror, an uncovered window, or a couples booking.
- Sensory play. Blindfolds, ice, wax, feathers. Taking away one sense so the others feel sharper.
- Authority and age gap play. Pupil and teacher, assistant and boss. The difference is what matters, not the actual ages.
- Edging and orgasm control. Being brought to the brink and kept there. Costs nothing and is surprisingly intense.
- Breath and throat play. A hand resting on the throat. Gentle pressure only, and the item here that calls for the most caution.
- Cuckolding and watching. Your partner with another person. Requires trust and a lengthy talk first.
Kinks that call for extra care
Anything that limits breathing, anything that could mark the skin, and anything that brings in a third person calls for a proper talk before it calls for kit. Settle on a safe word, settle on a hard limit, and begin more gently than you think you’d like. No one has ever wished they had started harder.
How to raise yours
Mention it when booking, not on the doorstep. Our concierge will have heard it before, it takes a few seconds to say, and we only pass it to ladies who truly enjoy that sort of booking, never to ones who would merely put up with it. An escort is also free to decline anything, which is exactly what makes her yes worth something.
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Questions
A kink is something you like. A fetish is a need, with arousal relying on a particular object, material or part of the body.
The ones mentioned most are role play, bondage, spanking, foot worship, and dominance and submission. In practice all of them are much milder than the names imply.
Yes. Survey after survey shows that most adults have one or more, and the familiar ones are perfectly ordinary.
Let the concierge know when you book, in simple terms. We only suggest ladies who genuinely enjoy it, and she is free to decline anything she isn't comfortable with.
Anything that affects breathing, anything that might leave a mark, and anything that brings in someone else. Settle on a safe word beforehand and begin more gently than you think you need.